I’m having one of those mornings. Ever since I woke up this morning, I’ve been crying. Not nonstop but consistently. I’ve written about this before but it bears repeating.
Before I go on, I want you to stop and become aware of any judgements or conclusions you may have unconsciously made about my tears – these can happen so automatically and unconsciously that we may not even notice we’ve done it.
I am aware that many judgements exist around crying based on how many of my clients will resist their tears even in the intimate and safe setting of a private session with me.
So, what am I feeling?
- Satisfaction that I can finally hang up my clothes
- Regret over some choices I made in the recent past
- Relief that I am finally getting my energy level back
- Remnants of grief ready to be healed more deeply
- Appreciation for the amazing team that supports me
- Pride in what we are creating in order serve more people
- Gratitude that I get to support you in living your Soul’s Truth
- Acknowledgement of my divine gifts
- Closure of a cycle that feels like it is completing
- Acceptance of all that has brought me to this moment
This is just a sampling of what I am feeling. And that is really what I want to talk to you about today. If someone were to be watching me from the outside this morning they might think me an emotional wreck but quite the contrary. I am not emotional; I am feeling.
Here is the distinction:
A “feeling” is a sensation or energy moving through your body and being for the purpose of release and realignment.
An “emotion” is a feeling whose flow has been blocked or cut off causing it to be trapped or stuck in your physical and energetic body.
One of the easiest was you can check in with yourself about whether you are having a feeling or an emotion is to ask yourself “am I reacting or responding?” When we are in emotion (a past feeling that has not been fully felt) we tend to react. When we are feeling we tend to respond naturally such as with spontaneous tears (which are simply a natural expression of an overflow from the nervous system).
When we are truly feeling we are completely present in the moment as the sensations rise in our body and allow them to express however they express, tears are my most natural way to release excess energy from my body. I cry when I’m happy, I cry when I’m sad, I most often cry at the Recognition of Potential (my Divine Coordinate) no matter whose it is 😉
Feeling safe enough to fully express my feelings before they turn into emotions is something I have had to work on. Living incongruently as what others wanted me to be rather than who I am took it’s toll on my feeling/emotional state.
We simply don’t feel safe with people who aren’t authentic even if we aren’t aware of what it is that makes us not trust them. Same goes for ourselves. If we aren’t being authentic with where we are and how we are truly feeling it begins to chip away at our own self-trust. Little by little, day by day.
So how can all these feeling be there at the same time? We are multi-dimensional beings, not flat cardboard cut outs. To think that one feeling could communicate all that is occurring in my body and soul at a given moment would only be scratching the surface in the depth of my soul experience.
Many times it can be frightening to allow ourselves to really feel what we are feeling because we are afraid we will get stuck there. The truth is that we are far more likely to get stuck there (remember an emotion is a stuck feeling) if we DON’T allow ourselves to really feel what we are feeling.
Start today by really feeling where you are. When something comes up give yourself the grace and the space to really feel what you are feeling without editing or judging without defending or justifying – simply feeling. The degree to which you can allow the feelings to pass through you is the degree to which you can access the higher levels of expression yearning to come through you into and for the world.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on the differences between feelings and emotions and how this has shown up for you.
Live your Light!